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Feb. 2nd, 2009 06:50 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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Siiiiiiiigh. I have a folder for "Wedding and Honeymoon" in my bookmarks between a folder of WoW general-info bookmarks and another folder of tankadin-specific bookmarks. You know what the most romantic words in the ENTIRE UNIVERSE are? "What are we waiting for? Let's just run off for a few days and get married." And I will never hear them. Ever.
You know, "Teh Boyfriend" or "Fiance" worked when I was making passing references to him and posting once or twice monthly. Now that I'm posting at length about something that involves him in every way, not so much. So he gets to be Flurf from now on. Anyway, he's been actually calling officiants, though I still have to go along with him to meet them. His next job is the chuppah, but he seems to be perfectly satisfied with having reached the decision to crochet it, and not to mind in the least that we don't know the size of the frame we'll be using, the source of the frame we'll be using... he hasn't even purchased the yarn yet!
A lot of people seem to stick to "Ask your florist about the chuppah!" I DON'T WANT A FLORIST. I want to get my flowers from Costco or Proflowers and not have to talk about my wedding's "theme" or "vision" or whatever-the-fuck with some stranger who will be judging me and my tiny wedding the entire time. And probably also address all questions and info to me the way jewelers do even though Flurf will be RIGHT THERE. Anyway, he wants to crochet the canopy part, but we still need something to hold it up and I have no idea how that is obtained, and I don't want to know because I just want to go to a freaking courthouse!
Attempting to extract chuppah info from the internet seriously depresses me like nothing else. WHY is this so difficult? Why are there such lovely rentable chuppahs in, like, Berkeley, and the New York area, while LA holds out? (I've managed to find this site, which is ugly and riddled with grammar and spelling errors, and declines to quote prices.) Why did a search for chuppahs on Craigslist only get me two listings? Why can't we just go to a courthouse instead of having some party that will make me want to die? Why can't we just arrange a marriage for one of our friends and make Flurf be the best man so he can get his snootful of wedding like I got mine four years ago and then he too will be sick of weddings and happy to elope?
Also my mother is coming to town to help me shop for dresses. The story went like this: Flurf and I went to visit my family over Xmas. My brother was there as well, first time I've seen him in two and a half years. We found out that his comments about marrying his girlfriend were not "eh, we're probably getting married someday," but "we're engaged" - he actually had a ring too. And a tentative date. OMG WHAT. We didn't even have a YEAR picked! I freaked out a little and asked Flurf if we could just run off and get this taken care of. And that was when Me vs. The Wedding began. After we hashed out that he wanted a wedding no matter how much it destroyed my sanity and capacity to ever feel joy again, I called my mother to wail in dismay because I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO PLAN A WEDDING, and Flurf was acting like this was actually the Sims 2 where the hand of god plunks down chairs and flowers and cake and takes all the pictures. And if one Sim rolls the want for a wedding party and the other doesn't, the one with the want doesn't make the other one feel GUILTY about just wanting to exchange rings in the kitchen. But perhaps I'm getting off topic.
Anyway, I called my mother to freak out, because I couldn't find any dresses that weren't the standard sleeveless thing I despise, and I hate parties, and I can't plan things, and what will happen if we get to the day of the wedding and I realize I forgot about chairs? My mother tried to soothe me. And then when we got off the phone, apparently she started shopping for dresses. The next morning (a day off), she called at 8 a.m. to tell me she had found all these dresses, and oh yeah, shoes, and veils, and here is a mall close to me with a Nordstrom's and there's a David's Bridal close by, and oh yeah she can book a flight out there to help me shop, what would be a good day? Slightly stunned, I agreed, and the coming weekend is it. This is also the weekend Anub'rekhan drops the tanking ring and Noth drops the Sword of a Thousand Truths and Thaddius drops the trinket and the raid downs Sapphiron, I just know it. (Yeah yeah, I'll get my wedding dress, but I don't even want a wedding dress, or a wedding, or a dress of any other kind. Whereas I reeeeeeeeallly want a new tanking trinket, which will make much happier for much longer than a dress will.)
So right now I'm trying to clean up the house for my mother's visit, and I'll basically have to cede my computer room, my privacy, and any time to myself for the entirety of the coming weekend, because she's crashing with us and the computer room is the only place for her to stay. The fact I'm unemployed doesn't help much. Iin theory I could squeeze in some downtime before she comes out, but in practice I will be too busy freaking out, dreading, and cleaning to relax much.
I do, seriously, still believe that weddings represent virtually everything wrong with this country.
You know, "Teh Boyfriend" or "Fiance" worked when I was making passing references to him and posting once or twice monthly. Now that I'm posting at length about something that involves him in every way, not so much. So he gets to be Flurf from now on. Anyway, he's been actually calling officiants, though I still have to go along with him to meet them. His next job is the chuppah, but he seems to be perfectly satisfied with having reached the decision to crochet it, and not to mind in the least that we don't know the size of the frame we'll be using, the source of the frame we'll be using... he hasn't even purchased the yarn yet!
A lot of people seem to stick to "Ask your florist about the chuppah!" I DON'T WANT A FLORIST. I want to get my flowers from Costco or Proflowers and not have to talk about my wedding's "theme" or "vision" or whatever-the-fuck with some stranger who will be judging me and my tiny wedding the entire time. And probably also address all questions and info to me the way jewelers do even though Flurf will be RIGHT THERE. Anyway, he wants to crochet the canopy part, but we still need something to hold it up and I have no idea how that is obtained, and I don't want to know because I just want to go to a freaking courthouse!
Attempting to extract chuppah info from the internet seriously depresses me like nothing else. WHY is this so difficult? Why are there such lovely rentable chuppahs in, like, Berkeley, and the New York area, while LA holds out? (I've managed to find this site, which is ugly and riddled with grammar and spelling errors, and declines to quote prices.) Why did a search for chuppahs on Craigslist only get me two listings? Why can't we just go to a courthouse instead of having some party that will make me want to die? Why can't we just arrange a marriage for one of our friends and make Flurf be the best man so he can get his snootful of wedding like I got mine four years ago and then he too will be sick of weddings and happy to elope?
Also my mother is coming to town to help me shop for dresses. The story went like this: Flurf and I went to visit my family over Xmas. My brother was there as well, first time I've seen him in two and a half years. We found out that his comments about marrying his girlfriend were not "eh, we're probably getting married someday," but "we're engaged" - he actually had a ring too. And a tentative date. OMG WHAT. We didn't even have a YEAR picked! I freaked out a little and asked Flurf if we could just run off and get this taken care of. And that was when Me vs. The Wedding began. After we hashed out that he wanted a wedding no matter how much it destroyed my sanity and capacity to ever feel joy again, I called my mother to wail in dismay because I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO PLAN A WEDDING, and Flurf was acting like this was actually the Sims 2 where the hand of god plunks down chairs and flowers and cake and takes all the pictures. And if one Sim rolls the want for a wedding party and the other doesn't, the one with the want doesn't make the other one feel GUILTY about just wanting to exchange rings in the kitchen. But perhaps I'm getting off topic.
Anyway, I called my mother to freak out, because I couldn't find any dresses that weren't the standard sleeveless thing I despise, and I hate parties, and I can't plan things, and what will happen if we get to the day of the wedding and I realize I forgot about chairs? My mother tried to soothe me. And then when we got off the phone, apparently she started shopping for dresses. The next morning (a day off), she called at 8 a.m. to tell me she had found all these dresses, and oh yeah, shoes, and veils, and here is a mall close to me with a Nordstrom's and there's a David's Bridal close by, and oh yeah she can book a flight out there to help me shop, what would be a good day? Slightly stunned, I agreed, and the coming weekend is it. This is also the weekend Anub'rekhan drops the tanking ring and Noth drops the Sword of a Thousand Truths and Thaddius drops the trinket and the raid downs Sapphiron, I just know it. (Yeah yeah, I'll get my wedding dress, but I don't even want a wedding dress, or a wedding, or a dress of any other kind. Whereas I reeeeeeeeallly want a new tanking trinket, which will make much happier for much longer than a dress will.)
So right now I'm trying to clean up the house for my mother's visit, and I'll basically have to cede my computer room, my privacy, and any time to myself for the entirety of the coming weekend, because she's crashing with us and the computer room is the only place for her to stay. The fact I'm unemployed doesn't help much. Iin theory I could squeeze in some downtime before she comes out, but in practice I will be too busy freaking out, dreading, and cleaning to relax much.
I do, seriously, still believe that weddings represent virtually everything wrong with this country.
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Date: 2009-02-03 04:03 am (UTC)Since you seem about as cheap as I am, you might want to check PreownedWeddingDresses.com for a dress. I say this also because I am selling my dress there, and desire money, but you know, it is also a valid helpful hint.
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Date: 2009-02-03 04:20 am (UTC)Other than that I can't really offer much besides good luck and hope it will manage to work out without too much extra stress on your part.
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Date: 2009-02-03 06:10 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2009-02-03 07:26 am (UTC)You just need poles, right (since your fiance is making the actual canopy)? My dad just went to Lowe's or somewhere and bought some wood and made a chuppah frame (just a square attached to 4 poles) and it didn't take a whole lot of carpentry know-how. I think it was also pretty cheap and it looked fine (in my opinion anyway, there's a pic of it here).
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Date: 2009-02-03 07:54 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2009-02-03 12:42 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2009-02-03 05:55 pm (UTC)And probably also address all questions and info to me the way jewelers do even though Flurf will be RIGHT THERE.
Goddamn patriarchy. The one time in our lives that nearly everyone addresses women before men, and it's to give us more work to do. =P
Re: the dress, it's really a shame there really aren't really any admirable video game or anime weddings, because then you could at least use the dress for cosplay afterwards. It seems like they're all shams (Wild ARMs 1) or politically convenient (Suikoden 2) or involve undead grooms (FFX, Suikoden 1&2). Although the last might make a good threat for Flurf if he's slacking off again...